So, the day Lorien bought her ticket to homecoming she got asked to the dance. First, she had to ask me if I would let her go to the dance with a boy...if he asked her. She isn't 16 yet and going to the homecoming dance pretty much counts as a date as far as I am concerned. I had thought about this already. All of her friends have turned 16 already and she is a junior in high school. I knew, if she got asked, I would let her go. If someone had showed up asking her to dinner and a movie three weeks before she turned 16 I would have said no. You can't really change the date of homecoming. So, I knew I would let her go...but I had to figure out how to let her know I would bend this rule.
She has always been agreeable to not dating until she was 16...unlike me. I wont air all of my dirty laundry...but I did sneak out on a few dates before I turned 16. Trouble. Anyway, she has been asked out a few times and always said "uh, no, I can't date until I'm 16." Good girl. Also, most of her friend get togethers my mother would have considered a date and not let me go. If boys and girls were getting together to play games or have pizza, that was a group date and I couldn't go (unless I snuck out). Lorien has a big friend group of boys and girls. She has already been on a hundred of what my mother would have considered a group date. So there's that.
Anyway, her friend, Travis, showed up on our door step one night with a bag of chips and cheese that said "I know it's NACHO problem but I'm in a CRUNCH. Will you CHEESE go to HOCO with me?" It was really cute (and cheesey) he asked Lorien to go to the dance and she said yes. Again, it was really cute (and cheesey).
After one weekend of looking for a good dress, Lorien decided she wanted her dress to be homemade. No big deal. I have made a million princess dresses...nope...big deal. Making dresses is hard!
But we set to work on it. It turned out really well. I was quite proud and I got to buy a rolled hem foot that I had always wanted. I only had to call my super-seamstress-sister, Jennifer, one time for a video conference call on how to fix the skirt and put the zipper in. I only cried twice and didn't have to go back to buy more fabric.
Total win.
Moreover, Lorien looked lovely in the dress! The night of homecoming was also the night of the Primary Presentation Practice. With three wards meeting in our church building now, we don't have time to practice primary program stuff after church. So a Saturday practice was called. It was stressful 30 minutes, picking Adell and Clare up at friends houses and birthday parties, getting the three little kids to the church and meeting Will and Lorien up at the Jackson's house for pictures before the dance.
BUT we did it all and I didn't have a heart attack.
Travis was sweet and had a corsage all ready for Lorien. HE even asked her what he should wear to match her dress. They decided on blush pink. Cute stuff, right?
I think they had a good time. Lorien said it went well. She did manage to find words for a sensation I had experienced many times but never pinned down. She said "All of my friends who are Travis's friends have friends in that group they are closer to than I am. So I always felt like I was just outside the group. No one was mean or excluded me they would just step closer to talk to each other and I'd be squeezed out of the circle." I know that feeling well. You are friends with some people but not best friends. When their best friends show up you feel a little on the outs. It wasn't a bad night at all. She had a great time and spent time with lots of different groups. I just thought it was interesting to hear that perspective given words. Clever girl.
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